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Steve Hitner - Divorce MediatorI am Stephen Hitner, a victim of the Massachusetts litigated divorce process. After spending hundreds of thousands of dollars from 1996 till 2009 to get through the litigation process I set out to change the Alimony Laws in Massachusetts.  Guidelines and Structure were needed so that no one would go thru the experience that I had. My divorce experience was so awful that I was featured in the Boston Magazine in July 2009.  Do not let what happened to me happen to you – “Do not Litigate – Mediate

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My View on Alimony

Some people might think that because I am an activist and the force behind the Alimony Reform Act that I am anti-alimony.  This perception cannot be farther from the truth.  I have never been anti-alimony, I am against alimony for life as the norm.  I believe that the purpose of alimony is to help the lessor earning spouse the financial opportunity to go on with their life.  At the same time, the payer should have the right to retire.  My belief is that the receiving spouse wants and needs security, while the payer needs finality.  I have helped payers to get  finality to an alimony obligation, as well as consulting with lessor earning spouses to get a fair amount of alimony for a reasonable amount of time.

The Rest of My Story

After an unsuccessful attempt for a modification, I with the help of a few couples, including Second Wives, began a Grass Roots Movement known as the group Mass Alimony Reform. Because of my efforts as President of MAR,  I am considered the driving force that changed the alimony Law signed by Gov. Patrick on Sept. 26, 2011.

This could not have happened if it was not for my ability to bring people together from being total advisories to allies. In 2009 I was appointed by the Joint Committee on the Judiciary to work with representatives’ of the Legal Bars including the Mass Bar, the Boston Bar and the Women’s Bar.

After several meetings, we all agreed on a new definition of alimony. . . .

“Alimony – The payment of support to an ex-spouse in need, from an ex-spouse with the ability to pay, for a reasonable length of time.”

As an active member of the Alimony Reform Task Force (the only non-attorney), I gained the understanding of the needs of both parties of divorce, and the destructive process of divorce litigation.

“My ability to listen and understand both sides of a disagreement credits me with getting the Alimony Reform Act of 2011 passed in Judiciary, the House and then the Senate with unanimous votes.”

I strongly believe my own experience and the experience I had with the members of the Task Force has given me the ability to help couples in the throes of divorce to understand each other’s needs. When both parties understand each others needs, it fosters  compromise and agreement.

I am not an Attorney

I am a person who believes that people who once were best friends should be able to move on with their lives without animosity. In many cases children are involved and the major focus should be in their best interests. I will strive to keep divorcing couples in control of their divorce with fairness to both sides.

“Divorce is the end of a marriage, it need not be the end of a family, especially when children are involved.”

I am not an attorney and I do not practice law. If litigation is your only option My services compliment, but DO NOT REPLACE the expertise of a competent Family Law Attorney.  I will educate you and provide you with tools and information to insure you a more productive and cost effective result.

6 comments on About Stephen Hitner
I don't even know where to begin. My ex promised me 50/50 joint physical custody and no one would have to owe anyone anything. Yeah, that didn't happen. I'm -4k in the hole now. Which is better than I was. And that was just for the ransom fees I had to pay for my child being taken away from me without due process. My ex even had my daughter (At 7 years old) write to the judge about how "Abusive" I am to her. I'm always with my family every time I get my "Visitations" with her. Poor kid. Her mother uses her and the courts tell me I have to stop lying and that I have to stop putting her in the middle of my court disputes. Kind of funny, seeing as how I didn't say one word in court. The ex would say one thing then the complete opposite. Over and over again, and then the judge called me a liar even though I didn't say anything. I really want those transcripts. Oh, but they told me they don't keep transcripts for civil matters. I'm sick of being the defendant. I'm sick of being guilty until being deemed an atm machine... I'm just plain fed up. I now suffer from LAS. There's no hope.
    Hi Daniel, There is always hope. You have a complicated situation that there is no easy answer to. Please call me to discuss. Steve H. 508-335-0069
Glen G
Steve I was wondering if you could give me some advice on my alimony situation. I was married for 26 years and then I filed for divorce in the state of Florida. During this time, I had lost my job after 25 years and I could not afford representation. I have to give her one third of my salary indefinitely. My question is, can she garnish my Social Security? It will be all I have to retire on. Do I have any kind of recourse. I'm worried that I will not be able to retire. Thanks Glen
    Hi Glen, I have seen up to 65% go to an ex spouse. You need to do a Negotiated Settlement if you ever want freedom. Please call me to discuss 508-335-0069
Wow, this post is pleasant, my younger sister is analyzing these kinds of things, thus I am going to inform her.
Debra Durno
Your laws are forcing my daughter and into a shelter. And my ex husband is living the dream. New vehicles new motorcycles. Literally has no expenses because he has CHOOSEN to live with his parents that are wealthy. My family is poor my car is broken down and my daughters future is completely destroyed. I am ill and I can’t even afford to go to see a doctor.

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